after attending yet another wedding, i find the one inevitable question people will ask is, "so when are you having a kid?". as if having a baby is easy as grocery shopping or just a matter of swallowing a pill and oops - out comes a baby! after talking to a friend who is married for a little more than a year ago, i found that this happens to her too. she even got recommendations to go to a fertility doctor when she didnt even ask for it! poor thing...
its like when people run out things to say, the topic of "when are you having a baby?" becomes their back-up question. most of them mean well i guess but after what seems like the millionth time i have to answer this question, i cant help but feel frustrated.
i feel like hanging a sign on my neck whenever i go out to explain my apparent 'babyless' state. it would probably say " i am only 27 years old for goodness sake!...and very fertile too! " it is not so much the asking that bugs me but the pity that often accompanies their voice when i say no, we are not pregnant. and if there is one thing that i hate most is to have people pity me.
when that happens, i feel like just giving it back to them there and then but i manage to keep it in. though i am not sure how long more that will be. i might just snap the next time a well meaning pity comes my way. after being married for three years and 'still' not pregnant, people start to assume that i am barren.
i cannot for the life of me think of any reason for their apparent 'concern'. one person even said "ohhh, you should come to my church la, my pastor pray for so many barren couples and they all get pregnant wan!" *&^%$((&&^%*\
i probably should'nt say this, but the people in church are probably the worst offenders.
for the gazillionth time, i am not pregnant does not mean that i am barren! we are just not really trying yet since hubby and i are still young!
so, whether well meaning or not, please try to put some thought into what you say to avoid getting a foot in your mouth.
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